Just When Is It Better To Be Seen Than Heard?

OK guys...time to set the code…When do you speak up and when do you sink back into the scenery?  Nobody wants to be a snitch or a busybody and no self respecting fellow wants to jeopardize his man card or best buddy status. And yet, there ARE times when you need to speak up, to call out injustice, to be honest and to do the right thing. I have a personal code and now Men’s Health Magazine offers theirs. They published a laundry list of opportunities and what they think you should do in each..

Should you shut up or speak up?

• A friend is really bad at his job, and it's obvious he'll be fired – Speak Up! A good friend would tell him, "Dude, I'm hearing things. You'd better talk to the boss." An okay guy deserves a heads-up.
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• When drinking, your buddy turns into a jerk. -- Shut up! At first. The next time he hits his limit, leave. He'll give you crap after he sobers up, and you can give him crap right back.
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• You're undercharged $100 for something – Speak Up! Come on, you're just asking to be hit by a karma delivery truck.
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• Your buddy is financially irresponsible, in debt, and not saving for retirement -- Shut up! No man should ever speak to another about how he spends his money. If your bud ask to borrow 10 grand, however, the gloves come off.
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• A co-worker's padding his expenses -- Shut up! He's a sleaze, sure. But it's his sleazy business, and if you turn in clean receipts, some bean counter will eventually compare and catch on. Smile then.
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• In a beer-fueled act of lunacy, you kiss your best friend's girl -- Shut up! Except to apologize to her and pry it's never discussed again.
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•   The guy at the body shop offers to up his estimate for the insurance company and says you can split the difference – Speak Up! Say, "No, thanks. Let's play it straight up." The karma delivery truck hits newly repaired cars, too