Put Down The Phone, Don’t Phubb Your Friends!
Perhaps you have heard of the work of Abraham Maslow and his 1943 paper in Psychology Review. The theory he proposed in an article entitled “A Theory of Human Motivation”, in simple terms, is this: every human being has the desire and capability of growth towards self-actualization or becoming the most that a person can become. Along the way, there are several levels where basic needs must be met before an individual can move on to the next level.
Maslow's 5 level pyramid includes: Biological and physiological needs, Safety needs, Love & Belongingness needs, Esteem needs and finally Self-actualization needs. https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
Maslow pressumed only about 2% of people would be able to get to the final stage and his opinion the self-actualized person is someone who:
1. They perceive reality efficiently and can tolerate uncertainty;
2. Accept themselves and others for what they are;
3. Spontaneous in thought and action;
4. Problem-centered (not self-centered);
5. Unusual sense of humor;
6. Able to look at life objectively;
7. Highly creative;
8. Resistant to enculturation, but not purposely unconventional;
9. Concerned for the welfare of humanity;
10. Capable of deep appreciation of basic life-experience;
11. Establish deep satisfying interpersonal relationships with a few people;
12. Peak experiences;
13. Need for privacy;
14. Democratic attitudes;
15. Strong moral/ethical standards.
All of this is to set up the question of "Phubbing" and can it deprive you of your Maslowvian Needs?
According to research reported by EurekaAlert, you may be guilty if you've ever kept your phone out on a dinner table or in conversation.
A new study finds that the act of 'phubbing,' or ignoring someone you're with in a social setting to concentrate on your phone, can have a negative effect on relationships.
British scientists specifically found that being phubbed, threatened the following, basic human needs: belonging, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control.
I can feel Maslow wince right now!
The results showed that, as the level of phubbing increased, people experienced greater threats to their fundamental needs. They also perceived the communication quality to be poorer, and the relationship to be less satisfying.
Researchers note that unlike other forms of social exclusion, phubbing can happen anywhere and at any time. (EurekaAlert)