Dave’s Diary: Science Shows There Are Two Keys To Long Term Happiness
In the words of Jimmy Souls 1963 Number one hit song “If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife, So from my personal point of view, Get an ugly girl to marry you.” Well, science doesn’t get that specific but research does show that if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, do get married (good looks optional) but do not get divorced
….oh, and don't get fired from your job either…cuz, well, that could lead to divorce I suppose!
Michigan State University psychologist Richard Lucas says avoiding those two experiences are the two keys to long-term happiness. Getting married makes us markedly happier -- but only for two years. After that, married people are no more happy than they had been as singles. However, divorce and losing your job can make some people permanently sad.
Compare that to losing a spouse to death, something from which most people recover in about seven years. Lucas maintains that divorced people can be happy again if they remarry, but even finding a new job can't repair the damage of getting fired.